Low self-esteem means low self-confidence and Low self-confidence means unsatisfying life. And that’s something we don’t want in our life.
It is possible to overcome low self-esteem if a person is willing to work on it. It does not happen overnight and requires a lot of work and patience, but it’s worth it to try for the reward.
But let’s first understand what self-esteem is and how low self-esteem affects us.
What is self-esteem?
Self-esteem can be defined as the assessment we make of ourselves. It is formed throughout life, mainly in the stage of adolescence. Having low self-esteem is considered a distortion of thought, that is, a way of thinking that is not correct about yourself.
when low self-esteem takes hold of us, we end up feeling inferior, unable to overcome the obstacles that life puts in front of us.
Low self-esteem affects not only our emotions but also our health and our life. It is a huge obstacle to be able to succeed and achieve the long-awaited success in our profession. If we do not trust ourselves, we will never reach the proposed goals.
Also, having low self-esteem harms us in studies and our life, as well as relationships with other people. Low self-esteem can generate sadness, depression, shyness, and different negative feelings.
In this post, We have listed 15 tips that will help you get rid of low self-esteem and permanently increase it (along with your self-confidence).
1. Improve yourself
No-brainer. You have low self-esteem because you believe that you aren’t good at anything. When you start improving yourself and learning new things, you’ll notice that you’re not that bad – you too can be good at something.
Continuous self-improvement increases your happiness, makes you more aware of your strong and weak points and most importantly shows you that you can achieve almost anything that you imagine.
Start your journey with self-improvement by getting rid of some bad habits and creating some new ones. Success and permanent life change are all about habits.
2. Realize that you have low self-esteem
You can not get rid of something if you do not know it’s there. If you do not admit that the main reason why you are not fulfilling your dream that you do not trust yourself, it will cost you a lot to break that habit.
What you perceive as an obstacle, most likely is that your inner monster is poking its ugly head to justify why you can not or should not do something. You have to be aware of what you feel and face reality.
When you recognize that what is holding back is your lack of self-esteem and not your busy schedule, you are one step closer to regaining confidence in yourself.
3. Find the source of your low self-esteem
The problems of self-esteem usually develop during childhood and its causes can be very different. But if you do not know them, you can never work on the origin of your fears!
Having been formed in childhood, the lack of self-esteem has been created by the perspective of a child and is undoubtedly biased. Since you could not understand what was going on, it is beneficial to look again for its origin and rethink your beliefs.
If you are afraid to meet people because you think you will not know what to say, but if you finally realize that the critical thing to get to know people is not to talk, but to listen, you probably start to overcome that fear.
4. Get rid of your insecurities
Another no-brainer. Many people struggle with low self-esteem issues merely because they are very insecure. As a result, they believe that they’re inferior to other people who don’t have as many fears.
The truth is that everyone is afraid of something. The key is to live in spite of fear and always face your fears. If you avoid things that make you feel shy, you make yourself even shier. So, you feel more and more insecure, and your self-esteem is going down. Stop this vicious circle – go and face your fears. That’s the only way to get rid of this problem!
5. Reprogram your brain
The human being is a slave to his habits. That is why it is much easier not to change anything than to try to move forward. And that’s why it’s probably more comfortable for you to accept the negative thoughts created by your inner voice.
Our brain is a highly programmable organ. This means that certain aspects of the brain can be reprogrammed, even in adulthood. To transform our insecurities into a positive force, we must first be aware of negative thoughts. So we can redirect them as we go.
The key here is perseverance. Every time you catch yourself thinking that you can not do something or that you are not good enough for it, recognize those thoughts. And substitute them consciously with positive thoughts as many times as needed.
6. Achieve greater peace of mind
If you’re always stressed, it affects all areas of your life – and especially your sense of well-being and self-esteem. How can you feel confident if you feel like crap?
Achieve greater peace of mind by spending more time in nature, learning to meditate, reading spiritual books, taking a break and travelling somewhere. You can’t work 24/7 without getting burned out.
7. Create a positive mantra, and repeat it
We all need to motivate ourselves from time to time. So when you’re working on reducing your insecurities, become your cheerleader.
When you notice that you doubt your abilities, repeat the following mantra: “People have been more foolish than me.”
Remember that many people have achieved incredible things with less knowledge, opportunities and experience than you have.
Find yourself a mantra that will help you to put out your insecurities. And once you have found it, use it whenever you need it so that the only thing you hear inside you is shouting: “Yes, you can!”
8. Have a supportive social circle
Friends and family can make you a highly confident person or put you down and make you feel like shit. While you can’t choose your family, you can identify people who make you feel bad and avoid them.
It’s the same with friends (the difference is that you can choose them). Remember to choose your friends wisely – they have a high impact on you. If they’re negative people, they’ll negatively impact your life. If they’re positive, they’ll positively impact your life. It’s a necessary step toward a happy, self-confident life!
9. Take up a sport
Sports not only change your physique, but they also improve your mentality. The best examples are bodybuilding, extreme sports and endurance sports such as running.
When you exercise, endorphins (that produce feelings of euphoria) are released. They make you feel happier and more positive. If you feel low very often, it’s probably because you don’t do any physical activity. Take up a sport and be active!
10. Get to know yourself
Do you know your strong and weak points? If not, the chances are that you overestimate your weaknesses and underestimate your strengths. List out all your strong points and all your weaknesses. You’ll notice that you’re good at a few different things – these are your strengths that you have to exploit.
You’ll also see that you have a few imperfections – that’s okay, everyone has them! You can try to eliminate them, but first, you have to realize that a few flaws don’t make you a person inferior to others.
11. Avoid comparing yourself with other people.
People who often compare with others always feel inadequate because they are still busy comparing themselves with others and believing that everyone around them is better than them.
For example, a person like this could say the following: “Look at that. My neighbour has a good car. I think I could never afford one of those. I’m a failure.”
12. Identify your negative thoughts
Whether you realize it or not, your thoughts trap you in a cycle of low self-esteem. To feel better, it is productive to identify the moments in which these types of thoughts occur and find ways to overcome them.
There are some typical negative statements with which you can become familiar, so if you come across any of them, you can focus on to eliminate them.
13. Commit to eliminating negative thoughts.
With all that negative contribution, it’s no surprise that self-esteem is undermined. If you recognize your patterns of unproductive thoughts, you can fight them.
It takes time and patience since changing old habits requires a lot of work. Dividing it into small steps is very useful. It is easier to make small progress and adopt the habit of treating yourself well thinking positively.
14. Start a self-esteem journal.
Now that you know some reasons why the loss of self-esteem occurs and the basic negative thoughts that are responsible for perpetuating low self-esteem. You can start the process to change your beliefs about yourself.
An excellent way to keep your thoughts organized and gives you plenty of room to experiment is to start your self-esteem journal.
15. Change your life substantially
If the above-suggested tips not work, then it means that you probably need a significant change in your life and has to make some hard decisions.
Sometimes there’s no other way to change your life but to completely transform it – change your job (or start a business), move to another place (even another country), change your social circle and your daily habits.
Analyze your life and note down all the things that you want to bring into it. Now think what you should do to achieve them. And then turn your life around!